Loading ...Breaking up with someone is the dark downside of the dating game. Whether you are the dumper or the dumpee, the train to splitsville is no fun.
Breaking Up is Hard to Do
Saying goodbye is never easy. It can be especially hard when one person wants to go their own way, but the other person is perfectly happy where they are. The end of a romantic relationship is an earth-shattering experience that will resonate for a very long time.
Breaking up is hard. Getting dumped might be harder. Whether you are the one breaking up or the one on the losing end, holding onto your dignity and sense of hope is important.
It’s Not You, It’s Me
Who hasn’t heard or even said those famous kiss-off words. Remember that the breakup is not about you - it’s about the end of a relationship. People change, relationships change, and sometimes they just don’t work anymore.
Make a Clean Break
If you’ve been dumped, keeping your new ex around will only make the longing worse. If you were the one who did the breaking up, the guilt will eat at you every time you see your former lover. It’s best to make a clean break–at least for now–and revisit the thought of a friendship in the future.
If you’ve been dumped, keeping your new ex around will only make the longing worse. If you were the one who did the breaking up, the guilt will eat at you every time you see your former lover. It’s best to make a clean break–at least for now–and revisit the thought of a friendship in the future.
Give Yourself Time
The worst thing you can do after a breakup is play the rebound game. Allow yourself some time to grieve the loss, and then take some time to figure out what you really want in life.
The worst thing you can do after a breakup is play the rebound game. Allow yourself some time to grieve the loss, and then take some time to figure out what you really want in life.
You Will Recover!
The initial pain of a breakup might consume you. You might wonder if you will ever feel whole again. But as the days go by, moving forward will get easier…and eventually you will be ready to give your whole heart again.
The initial pain of a breakup might consume you. You might wonder if you will ever feel whole again. But as the days go by, moving forward will get easier…and eventually you will be ready to give your whole heart again.
Let’s face it. Breakups stink. But don’t let a bad breakup keep you from trying to find the right one for you. Relationships might end, but hope shouldn’t.
Shannon Dauphin
Shannon Dauphin is a researcher, novelist, occasional editor, and owner of a booming freelance business. Her most important job, however, is being Mom to the coolest kids she has ever met.
Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. • Coping with a Breakup or Divorce • Dec 07, 2008
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